The Healthy Love Triangle: How Shared Spiritual Intimacy Leads to Marital Satisfaction

Have you ever heard anyone say, "a love triangle saved my marriage"?

Probably not! That actually sounds crazy. Most of the time when you think of a love triangle you think of two people vying for the affections of the third member of the triangle and desiring to beat each other right out of that triangle!

You may be thinking that in marriage a love triangle spells disaster, and most of the time, I'd have to agree! But, today I'm going to talk about a different type of love triangle, one that is spiritual, one that is life giving....one that did save a marriage!

You see, when Jason and I got married we called ourselves "Christians", but back then we never really made our lives or our marriage Christ-centered.

Yes, we went to church and prayed, but basically day to day, we looked just like everyone else!  We were believers "on Sunday", but every other day of the week we thought and behaved as if we weren’t.

We had successfully built a marriage triangle, one with each of us in one corner and the striving for cultural satisfaction at the top.

This way of life left both of us empty and led me to make very misguided decisions.

The outcome was several years of struggle and eventually separation.  At our lowest point, two different people began to emerge from the ashes of our relationship.

One who submitted all to the Lord and received healing and another who was sinking further into despair.  Jason was the one healing, and I was the one sinking.

Jason’s healing was transformative, and over time I wanted it for myself!

Eventually, I too surrendered to Jesus.  Once I did, peace flooded in like a river!  I was instantly healed!  God’s love and presence surrounded me in a way I had never experienced before.  I had finally found what I was looking for all that time.

Like Jason, I decided to remove the other influences in our relationship and put Jesus at the top.

We went from being just two married Christians to being two Christ-centered people with a Christ-centered marriage.  Our triangle changed! 

What we've found since then is how amazing sharing spiritual intimacy makes your relationship.  We didn't have that before, but now we do.

Now we:

• See Jesus as the leader of our family and truly follow Him together

• Tackle life's challenges and seek God's guidance together

• Experience God’s love and share our faith walk together

• Become more like Christ and less like the world together

We experienced that two people who marry and decide to put Christ at the center of their relationship and pursue Him passionately together, have the best chance for success at marriage and overcoming the pitfalls of life.

What else did we get out of it?…

more joy,

more peace,

more satisfaction,

more fulfillment,

more connection, and

more intimacy

...than we ever had before!

Never overlook the healing power of God for anything in your life dear friends.  His will is to heal and save.  He loves you and is for you.  He's for your marriage too!  Let Him in and watch Him work!  Pursue spiritual intimacy with your spouse.  You'll never be the same again.

Yes, a love triangle saved my marriage!  It saved my life!

Jennifer S. Goins