Is There Such a Thing as a Happy Divorce?

Have you ever felt trapped in a dull, lifeless, or unhappy marriage…

You think things would be better if you just cut ties and found happiness elsewhere.  Perhaps, you've even daydreamed about freedom and fun! But the question is does divorce actually make things better? 

One of the most important things we learned through our marriage struggles is that separating and pursuing divorce did NOT make things better.

This is what we experienced:

• Increased loneliness and isolation;

• More depression and unhappiness; and

• Twice as many expenses in supporting two separate households!

If you believe that ending your marriage is going to bring freedom and happiness because you “don’t get along anymore”, “feel trapped”, or “feel held back”, our experience says IT WON'T, and the research we’ve done confirms that our experience is normal.  It turns out that most divorced couples find that the happy divorce is a myth - as it fails to increase happiness and contentment.  Just like we did, these other couples discovered they are only exchanging one set of problems for another entirely different set of problems.

Except for in situations where spouses are escaping abuse, most unhappy marriages do not end with greater personal wellness nor relief from depression and anxiety.  It is usually the opposite!

Additionally, divorce is very painful for children, and the effects can be lifelong.  As children of divorced parents, Jason and I both can attest to the devastating effects of divorce. 

Personally, I am still dealing with insecurity issues and emotional trauma that stem from the break up of my family decades ago.  There is no way to “spin” the issue to make it better for your kids.  The happy divorce is a myth.  Escaping its effects is a myth. 

There is always pain, difficulty, and trauma.

But it doesn’t have to be this way!

Jason and I found a way to heal our wounds and repair our marriage through Jesus.  He is the answer.  Don’t make the mistake that many do and bail out before you’ve allowed the Healer to come in!  It can be better! 

Our marriage and the marriages of our clients attest to the power of Jesus to heal and bond!  You can walk in…

freedom,

joy,

peace, and

satisfaction…

…just like we do! 

You don’t have to settle for brokenness!  Don’t give up!  Your healing is just around the corner! What you can't heal yourself, Jesus can!  You don't have to do this alone.  We're here!  We’re cheering you on!

Jennifer S. Goins