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  • Apr 8, 2023

Is Lasting Physical Intimacy a Myth?

  • Jennifer S. Goins

Why does it seem like the longer you are married the more fleeting physical intimacy is? Is this just inevitable or is there something that those passionate couples know that we don't? Is lasting physical intimacy a myth or can we have what we dream of having physically with our spouse?

Does it ever seem like the longer you’re married the less physical intimacy there is? Is lasting intimacy a myth? Or can you capture what seems to be fleeting in many marriages? 

We say you can! Stick with us, and we'll share a few tips that will keep the spark in your marriage fire! 

You know how marriages start off steamy and exciting, but somewhere along the way, life happens and things cool down as we get into routines or take on struggles? We make excuses…we may even give up on it. 

We’re here to remind you that if you don’t think sex is important or necessary in marriage, that’s a big fat LIE! 

God created marriage so that husband and wife COULD experience the kind of intimate and loving connection (intellectually, emotionally, physically, and spiritually) that is fulfilling, healthy, and sustainable.

Our bodies were created for passion and pleasure, and God made a safe place for us to experience it in marriage.

Think of it this way…a fire is beautiful inside the fireplace! It is nice to view and keeps you warm! But if that same fire gets outside of the fireplace, it can BURN YOUR HOUSE DOWN! 

The truth is, a marriage that doesn’t have all forms of intimacy…including physical intimacy (SEX!) is lacking. So how can you keep that same level of excitement in your marriage so that you’re protected from the desire to seek that exciting connection elsewhere?

Jason and I have learned that you have to ELEVATE what you want to CELEBRATE. If you want to celebrate intimacy in your marriage…have that exciting adventure of connection during the day and sparks after dark, then you’ve got to elevate it! If you want to have physical intimacy in your marriage, you have to make it a priority! There are all kinds of ways you can get good at it!

1. Talk about it with each other (don't be afraid to)
2. Schedule time for it if you have to!
3. Practice! Practice! Practice! 

Be inspired!  God made a beautiful thing for us to enjoy as husband and wife…pursue it…pursue each other!

We hope this made you take a moment and think about your marital sex life! What can you do today to celebrate physical intimacy in your marriage?  Think about it!

Jennifer S. Goins