Divorce: Consider the Emotional Cost

An old friend once told me “It’s cheaper to keep her”!

While there is truth to that statement considering the financial impact of divorce, we should also consider the emotional impact.

There was a period years ago when Jen and I were traveling the road to divorce. I moved out, walked away from the “front porch and picket fence life” we had been portraying for many years - out of my comfort zone, my safe place, and moved into a 1-bedroom apartment.

The comforts of home were replaced with institutional living located behind the glow of a shopping center parking lot.

Not only did we suddenly double our dwelling costs and the utilities that came with that, but I stepped into a bizarro world where I no longer woke up next to the person I once referred to as my best friend, no longer shared space with the person that was once so dear to me.

The financial costs quickly became overshadowed by the emotional costs.

I thank God that He worked on our souls individually to remake us into the people He intended us to be (rather than the people we were trying to be).

My prayer for you, dear friend, is if you or your spouse are considering taking the path leading to divorce that you will seriously consider the potential outcomes and weigh them against the outcomes of a marriage thriving under God’s design, where the two of you truly do become one - like Jen and I have.

God's design and plan are perfect. He knows what works and what doesn't. Lean into His way.

Through Christ we were able to make that U-turn, and I declare, brothers and sisters, that you can too…. cheering you on!

Jason D. Goins